[Link] 5 Sneaky Mistakes Destroying Your Writing Focus (Fix Them Fast!)

by Colleen M. Story

You sit down to write, determined to finally make progress on your project. The words will flow this time, you tell yourself. But before you know it, you’ve checked your email, responded to a message, scrolled social media, and now you’re standing in the kitchen wondering why you even got up in the first place.

The writing? Still waiting.

In today’s world, distractions are everywhere. It’s not just technology demanding our attention, either. There are all the never-ending tasks we must complete to manage our writing careers, plus life’s responsibilities piling up. It can make maintaining focus feel nearly impossible.

Still, if you’re serious about your writing, you have to take control of your focus. Below are five common mistakes destroying your concentration—and what you can do to fix them.

Writing Focus Mistake 1. Multitasking While Writing

We often think we can do more than write. Write and watch the baby. Write and cook dinner. Write and help a child with their homework.

It’s easy to succumb to this temptation. We have a lot to do, and sometimes, it can feel like if we don’t combine writing with something else, we’ll never get the writing done.

But while multitasking may seem productive, it actually fragments your focus and makes writing much harder. Say nothing about how it lengthens the time required to get the words down.

The Fix:

Commit to single-tasking during your writing sessions. Remember that even 15 minutes of focused writing is better than 30 minutes of multitasked writing. Experiment yourself if you like and compare your word counts. Most likely, you’ll get more done if you can focus on your story.

Set clear boundaries. Silence notifications, close unnecessary tabs, and resist the urge to jump between tasks. Consider using a distraction-blocking app to prevent temptation. By focusing on one thing at a time, you’ll enter a deeper state of concentration and boost your writing output.

Read the full article: https://writingandwellness.com/2025/03/03/5-sneaky-mistakes-destroying-your-writing-focus-fix-them-fast/

Brittany Wilcox: How Fan Fiction Became My Tool for Healing

Editor's Note: Brittany Wilcox is a dear friend of mine. We've been band-mates and co-songwriters, and poetry buddies for quite a few years now. She shared her story recently, and I felt it was so important that I asked if she'd mind if I shared it here with you. Thankfully, she agreed. Y'all need to know this awesome person. Trust me. 

by Brittany Wilcox

Trigger warning for mental health stuff, almost dying, and toxic relationship talk. 

I started writing fan fiction only five years ago. I was trapped in an abusive relationship and desperately needed a writing outlet. Poetry wasn't cutting it anymore 😅. Writing had always been so cathartic to me, and it was like I had this itch that needed to be scratched. When I first started, I wasn't a stellar storyteller. Learning how and when to "show, not tell" was a steep learning curve for me, who is inherently lazy and only wants to write the juicy parts of the story.

Anyway, My ex found my first AO3 account and deleted it while I was hospitalized fighting for my life against a septic brain infection. He alienated me from the friends I had made online. I rebuilt it in secret after I got out of the hospital. He forced me to abandon my second account. At this point, I had met who is now my girlfriend who I live with. At the time, we were just friends. He made me tell her we couldn't be friends anymore and forced me to read her reply to him out loud. I sobbed uncontrollably as I did.

Jokes on him now because we live together now and I've never been happier. So, fuck you, ex.

Anyway, the whole brain infection conundrum made me realize I have a covert mental illness. It didn't make itself known to me until I almost died and *had* to become aware of it in order to survive.

You'll know it as DID (formerly Multiple Personality Disorder for the Boomers 😉). I went into trauma therapy after leaving my ex and was formerly diagnosed during this time. (Anyone who has questions about this, I'm willing to answer. What is widely known about this mental illness to the public is very, very wrong).

Once I started to heal, the compulsion I felt to write these stories (it was all for one particular fandom, by the way. I only wrote for a single fandom 99 percent of the time) lessened, and I realized that I was writing these stories to try and communicate with myself. I was trying to tell myself about my other parts that were separated from me. It became a tool of healing and expression of the abuse I had suffered throughout my life via the use of metaphors and storytelling. It gave me enough emotional and psychological distance from what happened to get it out without spiraling into the throws of a CPTSD episode.

Of course, it couldn't prevent every spiral, and due to both the physical trauma of the infection and the rampant abuse I had suffered at the hands of many for my entire life, I succumbed to the spiral two more times and had to be hospitalized. (I didn't try to unalive myself. My nervous system would just get so out of whack that I would be convinced I was dying and stay awake for days on end until I was in full-blown psychosis. 0/4 stars do not recommend).

Each time I recovered in part because of my escape into fanfiction.

When my service dog passed away from cancer almost two years ago now, I was able to put that grief into one of the most beautiful pieces I've ever written, instead of spiraling. For me, it's been a hell of a tool of self-discovery and healing. No, I don't share it openly with people I know personally. I am afraid of judgment for some of my darkest themes. It's anonymous for a reason (though if someone wants to read it I'll give them a link. I'm not shy. I'm just not out promoting it).

I'm in a healthier place now and have started trying my hand at happier, fluffier fics just for the challenge. Sure, it's made me a better writer, but that's absolutely the least of it.

Thank you for coming to my TED Talk.

To Your Health, Writer! -- #2 Ergonomic Workspaces

Ashly Mixon, the Nerdapist

With Ashly Mixon
(The "Nerdapist")

It's time for another visit with the local Nerdapist, our physical/exercise therapist for writers, geeks, nerds, gamers and the rest of us who spend way too much time in front of computer screens. And thanks again to Ashly for looking out for our muscular health.

If you have a question you'd like to pose to Ashly, just email me, and I'll be sure to put it in the queue.

Now, let's get on with this visit. The Nerapist is in.

What should a writer look for in an office chair?

Vertical Mouse

What tends to happen is the desk is too high and the chair and computer are too low, so you're looking down, hunched forward with your shoulders up to your ears, and you do this every day then come to me with your hands on top of your shoulders and say, "This is where I carry my stress."

Uh, yeah - physical stress! We've regressed to caveman posture, yet wonder why our upper back, neck and shoulders hurt.

Ideally what we want to see are nice 90-degree angles at the elbows, hips, and knees while the spine is upright. Here are some tips to help make your workspace more ergonomic in order to reduce the amount of stress on your body:

1. Starting with the head and neck, I recommend having your monitor straight ahead of you in order to prevent you from having to look down for a long period of time. Your head is quite heavy, and while your anterior neck muscles flex to bring your head forward and/or look down, the muscles in the back of the neck and upper back must extend and fight gravity to keep that bowling ball of a cranium you've got from hanging, which puts a tremendous amount of stress on those muscles. Reduce that stress by finding a way to have your monitor at eye-level.

2. Another thing that can help is a small pillow at the back of your neck. This will assist in keeping your head back while supporting the lordotic curve in your cervical spine. Some ergonomic high-back chairs come with said pillow, as well as one to support your lumbar spine in the same way. I'm a big fan of these chairs! The really good ones also have adjustable armrests, which help prevent elevated shoulders.

Ergonomic
Gaming Chair

3. Another item I'm a big fan of for anyone who uses a computer is the vertical mouse. A typical mouse, as well as the pad on your laptop, isn't ideal because it promotes pronation of your forearm, which is the palm-down position. What this does (very simplified) is rotate everything from your hand to your shoulder inward, and that creates stress in your forearm, shoulder, and neck. The vertical mouse works the same way as the horizontal mouse in that you use your index and middle fingers to press the buttons, and some of them have a ball for your thumb for scrolling (good for gameplay!), but it's designed for your hand to be in a more neutral position, which is much more ergonomic. Even better - they're inexpensive. Browse on Amazon or Walmart.com and you'll find a plethora of options all around $20. 

4. Ergonomic gaming chairs can also be more affordable than typical ergonomic office chairs, so I recommend searching for those as well. I found an excellent chair online for my fiancé for $100 with the high-back, cervical and lumbar pillows, and adjustable armrests (they also come in a variety of colors if you like).

Final note: Even in the most ergonomic office space, I must encourage you to get up occasionally and move! Get your circulation going and stretch (remember which areas I noted for lengthening last time).

To Your Health, Writer! -- #1 The Main Thing

"One of us! One of us!

With Ashly Mixon  
(The "Nerdapist")

Hey there, blog readers. I want you to meet someone very special to me, a very good friend who has a heart for helping out nerds and geeks like us (because, although you don't have to be one to be a writer, it helps). Ashly Mixon is a professional massage therapist/corrective exercise specialist, and we're going to be talking with her regularly here at the blog to see what we writers who sit at computers for long periods of time can do to be more proactive about our health, particularly our muscular health.

Thanks to Ashly for agreeing to become our official "nerdapist" (therapist for nerds).

Let's start at the top for this first column. 

What is the most important issue writers and other nerds who sit at computers for long periods of time need to be concerned about and what can we/they (because I'm one) do to fix it?

It's difficult to choose just one, because there are a number of overly common pathologies associated with prolonged periods of sitting and/or computer work, but I think I'd have to go with Janda's upper crossed syndrome, which is a postural distortion we see in everyone - not just desk workers. With upper crossed syndrome, the affected individual has a forward and and rounded (forward) shoulders. This distortion is the culprit for numerous everyday complaints, such as headaches, tension in the shoulders, rotator cuff injuries, shoulder impingements, upper back tension between the shoulder blades, and an exaggerated curve in the thoracic spine to name a few. Sitting in chairs with a back on them to support you  is the primary cause of this distortion, while the actual act of working on a computer tends to more exacerbate the issue than actually cause it.

Ever heard the saying, "If you don't use it, you lose it"? That saying doesn't pertain to educational lessons solely, but your muscles as well - especially as we age. Did you know that as early as your thirties you start to lose your muscle mass if you aren't actively challenging them? By allowing the chair to hold you upright, you're not engaging your core to do its job, so you begin to lose that connection between the muscle and the nervous system, and those muscles become inhibited. This is why trainers preach strengthening of your core, even while you're rolling your eyes because you've heard it so often. Without the core to fight against gravity and hold you up the way it's designed to, your upper body will start to slump forward. This results in a muscular imbalance called altered reciprocal inhibition, where (without getting overly technical) the muscles in your chest, the front of your neck, and the base of your skull become chronically shortened, while the muscles in the back of the neck and shoulders, as well as those in the upper back chronically lengthened.

This is what creates a lot of those issues I mentioned earlier. The chronically lengthened tissues are very stressed, which to you feels like tension or pain. To correct this issue, you must correct the imbalances. To do so, we use corrective exercise in 3 steps (technically there are 4 steps, but a trainer or Corrective Exercise Specialist is needed, whereas the first 3 can be done on your own).

Step 1 is probably of the most important, yet most overlooked steps, which is inhibition the overactive tissues (which are the ones doing the pulling, not the ones being pulled). For this step, you use a self-myofascial release tool such as a foam roller or tennis ball to locate tender points in the muscles that need to be released. A foam roller is a good tool for the larger muscle groups, such as those in the leg. For smaller muscles, however, the tennis ball is going to be the most effective. When you locate a tender point, apply gentle pressure (on a scale of 1-10, don't go above a 5), and hold either until the tender point releases or for a period of about two minutes at the most. If the tender point doesn't release after that amount of time, move to the next one. You want to repeat this process throughout the length of the muscle you're inhibiting, then you move on to the next step.

Step 2 is lengthening of the shortened tissues. Now that the overactive muscles have been inhibited, it's time to stretch them. **Please do not stretch the already lengthened tissues, such as those in the upper back. This could lead to a potential strain or sprain.** If you're unsure about how to stretch the muscles, a bodyworker can help you, or you could also do a simple web search. As you go into your stretch, stop when you get to what we call the "soft end-feel," which is that first bit of resistance you get from the muscle when it senses it's being stretched. Hold your stretch for at least 30 seconds, but ideally until you feel that release where you can increase your stretch slightly, but stop after that and repeat with the next muscle, such as the pecs. Many people, including other professionals, usually jump right to this step and ignore the first altogether. This is not recommended, because without first releasing the tender points, your stretch can't be as effective. Think of your shortened, overactive muscle as a handkerchief, and the tender points are knots in your handkerchief. If you jump right into the stretch, not only are you not going to achieve the desired stretch, you could potentially create a tear in the fibers around those knots. So please don't neglect step 1!

Another overly neglected, but much-needed step is step 3: strengthening of the lengthened, underactive muscles. All the stretching in the world won't correct your muscular imbalances alone. Your muscles know how to do one thing: pull. Re-train those lengthened tissues on how to do their job by strengthening them. Just as with stretching, if you're unsure about how to strengthen your muscles, a trainer or CES like myself can help you, or a web search, but be cautious when searching the web! With this step, it's best to have a prescribed exercise from a professional to prevent potential injury.

Following these 3 steps will correct your muscular imbalances, thus improving your posture. Proper posture isn't just about looking pretty; it's primarily about having healthy joints that function optimally, which is the best way to prevent those oh-so-common aches and pains.

[Link] Six Tips to Help Save Yourself from Poor Computer Posture

by Cameron Summerson

Sitting is killing you. Sitting on its own isn’t inherently bad, but if you work at a computer, sitting for hours every day is ultimately hard on your body. Here are some simple tips you can do to help, though.

While sitting all the time is considered generally bad for your health, one of the first things to go is your posture. Sitting all the time decreases core strength, which in turn makes you slouch. That’s terrible for your back, shoulders, and neck, causing pain and generally making you more unhealthy. And as you lose that core strength, the slouching gets even worse. Fortunately, this isn’t irreversible, and there are things you can start doing today to make things better.

Set Your Monitor Height Correctly (and At the Proper Distance)

This may come as a shocker, but having your monitor too low is awful for your posture—yeah, we’re talking to you, full-time laptop users. The top of your monitor should be level with your eyes (when you’re sitting up straight), so you’re always looking forward and never down. With the top of the monitor at eye level, you can keep your head straight and use your eyes to see the rest of the screen.

But if you’re using a laptop, you’re probably always looking down. On a short term basis, this isn’t necessarily doing any damage. But if you’re a full time laptop user, this can be terrible for your posture—especially your neck. It can cause constant neck and back pain, headaches, and more.

So if you’re a laptop-all-the-time kind of user, we highly recommend getting an external monitor when using your laptop at a desk.

And on the subject of monitors, the distance between you and your display is also important. Generally, if you sit in your regular typing position, you should be able to stretch your hand out and just touch your monitor without stretching too much. Somewhere around 20-24 inches is pretty good. Further away and you’re not only straining your eyes, you’re more likely to incline your head forward to see well.

Read the full article: https://www.howtogeek.com/349796/six-tips-to-help-save-yourself-from-poor-computer-posture/